(A Woman’s Guide To Reclaiming Wholeness After Sexual Abuse)
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By Simone N
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Are you in an emotional slump of some kind? Are you emotionally and physically fatigued and exhausted?
What can you do to treat these issues, and prevent them from happening int he future?
In this article, I will giving some tips and ways to help with emotional and compassionb fatiague.
Do you remember what an emotional slmp is?eotional, compassion fatigue, as well? If not go to the last article: Dealing With: Emotional Slumps, Emotional Fatigue And Exhaustion (Part 1)
What I’ve discovered is there is only one root cause for these issues, and it that there is a need for more self care. When you are operating on a emotional, mental and physical deficit, it is a cry for more nuturing and care. Your emotional self needs recharging, and nuturing as well as you physical body that needs rest, relaxation, food, and sleep.
Therea has been too much energy extended out (whether to people, and their needs, or your experiences in dificlties, and challenging cirumstances), and niot enough energy drawn back to yourself amdreplenished to keeo you in balanced and healthy. We need to draw more energy toward ourselves; and this is what these issues are telling us. It is a warning from your soul/higer Self, and body that you are out of balance, and if it continues and goes far enough, you will completely erode (emotionally, mentally, physically, and you spiritual self and connection will suffer too). Be grateful for these issue or happenings beacause it is just a signal that needs to be heeded; something is to be balancedm adjusted, and or intergrated.
An emotional slump, the period of time when we are not feeling our sbest, whether fatigue, exhaustion, depression, or grief, is a call for more attentative self care
So what can we do abopu emotional fatigue?
- Identify what could be draining (or furhter draining) your energy. I know that i said in the alast episode/aricle that emotional fatigue usually oddurs as a result of the accumulation of the things we have suffered and battled to overcome, and get to this present moment, and that is true. what I am really pinpointing however, is to identify those things (or people0 that are sending us over the edge; drainoing, and not building up or helping to replenish our energy (this is the straw that breaks the camel’s back scenario). Actively identify and change those things and people/relationships that you have control over inyour life. For some exxamples: cut down working extra hours at work, toxic relationships, watching the news, engaging in negative talk, gossip/slander of others, etc.
- Give yourself, the space and time to re-charge. Always have your quiet time, and a space for just you to unwnd, relax, and give back to yourself.
- Engage in activities that are uyplifting, and fueling. Resist (like I stated bedfore) those things that further drain, and deplete your energy, and emotional reserves. Physical excercise, meditation, sports, arts of anykind (whisch help to heal); anything that gives you peace, joy, or energy.
- Create balance with healthy routines, schedules. Find the appropriate time for rest/sleep, work, relationships, alone time, fun, a healthuy balance. Sleep is so essential to overall wellness, well-being, make time for adequate sleep.
All of the points apply, because compassion fatigue, really is an emotional fatigue, coming from a specific source. There are some extra things to look into; what we can do to lessen the stress/depletion/trauma from our interaction with others. Here are some tips for compassion fatigue from work/career/profession:
- Reduce work load if your career or profession is the source of the compassion fatigue that is experienced, if it involes the caring for the needs of those in disstress (parmedic, nurse/doctor, therapist, leader in some human affairs). With these responsibilites and/or roles, it is almost a certainty that you become overwhelmed by it and become fatigued. so reduce time spent in these environments, scenarios, do not do more than you should (or required), don’t over do it.
- Maintain a healthy balane between work and outside interests. this is very important; as you must allow yourself the oppurtunity to do other things that are important to you, that put you in a better space emotionally, and mentally, that give you a break. We must have those times for release , relaxation, and fun.
- Take more time away. Vacations/stay-cations, retreats, tec. The goal is to leave the environment, city, responsibilities and the care for others, to check out (emotionally, mentally, an dphysically temporary, ofcourse), and literally check-in a hotel somewhere, where you can have the peace, release and relaxation you need, and deserve.
- Learn to say no, set boundaries. As much as yo ulike ot care for others, sometimes the reason we end up fatigued or burnt out, is we do too much and take it too far. Too many hours spent, requests made, effort expended, and so on. Sometimes all it takes is a simple no, or setting a rule, to give us more energy, peace of mind, to take more care of ourselves.
In personal relationships all of these can apply if you are in the role of caregiver to someone (injured, sick, disabled, addict). Here are an extra couple of points to consider:
- With someone youlove suffering, we overidentify (which causes the compassion fatigue) with their issues, problems, suffering. Sometimes it help to remind ourselves that we are not them, we can be empathtic without taking “it” on a suffering with them. Remember you cannot help if you are in just as bad situation as them, you can do no good. what helps for me is to imagine a clear shield. It is clear enough to see them and their pain; you can hear them, see them and communicate with them, you can attens to their needs, however the shield is a reminder the there is a separtaion between you and this person, it is prtective. It protects your mind, thought, emotions, what gets in, and to you.
- It can be so helpfu to just step away, and take a break, a breather. Even taking five minutes to take some fresh air, deep breaths, listening to some of your favourite music, can help to re-energize and balance you
Hopefully this helped in some away, and you found it useful in your situation, if you are dealing with these issues.
Check out the next article: Dealing With: Stress, Delayed-Onset PTSD, And Adrenaline Fatigue (Part 1)