(A Woman’s Guide To Reclaiming Wholeness After Sexual Abuse)
Blog and Podcast Show notes
By Simone N
For a more in depth discussion, check out the podcast episode for this blog, to listen.
Episode # 15
Do you overindulge in food?
Why do you do it?
How can you overcome this habit?
Let’s speak about overeating today. It’s important to identify the times you overeat when you are bored, angry, or depressed. This is something we do to sabotage ourselves and the process of healing and development. Emotionally and physically it is very counterproductive and unhealthy for us, and I’ll explain what i mean here.
To over indulge in anything, to do something in excess, and in this case, it negatively impacts our physically bodies/health. Anything that is done in excess is damaging and unhealthy.
With this said, to over eat, is to eat more than is needed, more than you should. This can manifest in bingeing (snacks, favorite foods), eating large portions at meal time, eating when full/satisfied (ignoring body’s signals).
Why do we do this? As I said before, overeating is to take in more than is needed; not for hunger, but for other reasons. Sometimes it is done out of feelings of boredom and/or emptiness (we find something to do, wanting to feel “full”). Another reason, I need to highlight; is many of us do it an attempt to numb pain and difficult emotions. We “stuff it down” with food, to avoid dealing with it all together. We are looking for a way to comfort, soothe, pacify ourselves with a pleasurable activity, however, it does not work. It falls short of truly helping us with it, because it is done often and frequently. It gives us the illusion that it is, because we are distracted. In this case, the healing/recovery process of those difficult emotions (pain/trauma) are being delayed, waiting for the resolution.
Why is it so damaging to overindulge in food? Naturally we eat to sustain ourselves, to maintain bodily functions. It is fuel, for the car that is our body. When this function is abused it creates obesity, other health problems; high blood pressure/sugar, diabetes, heart attack, etc. It can significantly reduce your quality of life when your health declines.
Reversing Habits of Over eating:
- First you must learn to develop discipline and restraint. No one can teach you the skill of discipline, but I can suggest a few things that may help. If you want to scare yourself straight, then watch some documentaries and shows (featuring real stories and people) about over eating and obesity.
- Eat foods that are filling (healthy foods), fiber rich foods, as they prevent you from eating a lot because it is so satisfying. You eat a lot less of it, rather than those foods, that are a bleached, processed, and high fats, but low in nutrients, and complex carbs, and fiber.
- Buy only the basics, the staple foods that are necessary to make complete meals. Do not look, or touch the foods that you have a weakness for. Stay away from temptation. Out of sight, out of mind.
- Be present in your body as you eat. Avoid distractions, when eating (t.v, phone, games). It can make a big difference. When you are engrossed in an activity as you eat, you are not aware of the signals from your mind alerting you of satisfaction, until removed from the activity, you then feel too full. Focus on your food at all times.
- If you are eating when bored or empty, you must develop discipline and restraint. Remove the temptation from your home; if there are goodies/snacks because of other family members (kids, boyfriend,or roommate), you must find a way to keep it out of sight, and reach. Also identify what emptiness/void is causing you want to “fill” yourself with something. Did you lose your job? Do you feel un-purposeful? Lonely? In need of love and attention? Just being able to identify the reason behind the impulse, will help with discipline. You can then find other healthy ways of dealing with the problem.
- If you are eating when depressed and/or suppressing difficult emotions and/or pain/trauma, that is something that will be expand upon in another article, focusing on depression and all pertaining to.
Hopefully this brought some insight to you about this habit that you partake in, and the possible cause for it.
Check out the next article: How To Overcome: Overindulgence Part 2