(A Woman’s Guide To Reclaiming Wholeness After Sexual Abuse)
Blog and Podcast Show notes
By Simone N
For a more in depth discussion, check out the podcast episode for this blog, to listen.
Do you overindulge in alcohol?
Is it a comfort for stress, difficult emotions, trauma?
Why is it damaging to use alcohol for these purposes?
Today I will speak about alcohol and it’s uses briefly. It’s an important topic, especially when we are looking to develop, heal. and better ourselves in all ways. It may be a wide-spread and common practice to drink, however it is something that should be addressed, as there are specific issues attached to it, that I will like to get into.
Alcohol is a fermented drink that is made from grains, fruits, and vegetables. It is something that is most often than not, used for relaxation/enjoyment in social gatherings, or alone. Drinking alcohol is OK once in a while, but can become unhealthy in large amounts and/or frequently.
Sometimes it is used as an escape from reality; the issues, pain, and stress, of life; and for those who use it in this manner frequently, it can become a habit, and/or can turn into a full-blown addiction,(alcoholism), which needs to be treated by a professional.
To drink with the intention of wanting to suppress memories/flashbacks, pain and stress (in relation to sexual abuse and/or others), there is something you need to know: it will not help. Using substances to distract, numb, or to forget, will not only make your issues worse, it will thwart the natural healing process by avoiding/suppressing. The process requires you to feel those uncomfortable/painful emotions (upheavals), because that is how we purge ourselves of it. It will keep coming up, and out, until you deal with them.
Why is so damaging to over indulge in alcohol? Alcohol is considered to be poison to the body, so you can be sure it is dangerous in large amounts. It kills brains cells, causes liver damage, weakens immune system, etc. Also, when we in a state of inebriation, we don’t have much control over choices/decisions, behaviors; life cannot be conducted from a clear, and concise perspective. If you are always under the influence of alcohol, how many good, wise, decisions do you think you are making? Like I briefly explained before, it is damaging to your healing journey/recovery process, and developing self-love, mental/emotional/spiritual wellness. You cannot be, or become your best self under the influence of substances.
Here are some things you can do in reversing overindulgence with alcohol:
- If your pattern of alcohol consumption has taken over your life; interfering with relationships, jobs, and other aspects, it is not something that can be controlled, it is time to see a professional. This may very well be mental disorder/disease, an addiction (alcoholism).
- There are other cases when it has become a habit to drink, but it does not interfere with everyday life, however the activity can become more frequent and excessive in times of stress and change. The person becomes triggered by events/circumstances (wounds, trauma, pain).
- If you have this problem, find out what your triggers are, once you identify them, then you can work on replacing the habit, with healthy productive ways of dealing with difficult emotions.Writing in a journal, meditation, communion with love ones, acknowledging the painful feelings.
- Ask yourself the important questions; and just know that alcohol never solves problems (maybe a temporary illusion of wellness), it just creates them
I would advise you if you are dependent on alcohol and its uses, to get help or assistance for it. The consumption used for these purposes, does not help anything (creates problem as well); your problems are waiting for you as you sober up. It’s a much better idea to deal with your trauma/pain from the root, in order to heal, and in the long run you will be a lot better off (emotionally, psychologically, physically, and spiritually).
Check out the next article: How To Overcome: Overindulgence Part 3